Stuck on the Floor (Why You Can't See the Better Option)
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The Big Idea
Most of the time you do not have a decision problem. You have a perspective problem, and it comes from where you are standing. Room to breathe gives you more than one angle. More than one angle lets you tell the difference between options. And telling the difference is how you build rules of your own for choosing. Grinding takes the room away, and without it, none of the rest happens.
"A full calendar with no room to think is just a very organized way to stand on the floor."Jess Webber · Episode 35
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The Maslow Mountain Series
Jess's seven-part series at I Love Coaching Co., where she drew Maslow's hierarchy as a mountain you climb alongside your clients.
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Book Referenced
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
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In This Episode
- Why your best ideas show up in the shower, in the car, and at 3 a.m. instead of at your desk
- A phone call with someone very influential in Jess's past life about her Make Time Matter keynote, and the difference between knowledge and understanding
- Why a bad decision is often a problem of not being able to see the better option, and what discernment means in plain language
- Maslow's hierarchy of needs as a floor, and why your attention narrows when you live at the bottom of it
- How room to breathe leads to more than one perspective, then discernment, then a filter made of your own rules
- What Greg McKeown's Essentialism says about play, and why Jess reads 200 to 300 books a year, mostly fiction and fantasy
- The curriculum wall Jess hit building the Lead Magnets Made Simple class, tied back to last week's story of rebuilding it two hours before teaching
- Why Jess and Adam spent weeks on the I Love Coaching offer structure, and why the second version of an idea holds up better than the first
- The floor check: three questions to run before your next big decision
Memorable Lines
- "Most of the time you do not have a decision problem, you have a perspective problem, and it comes from where your feet are planted."
- "Space is not the opposite of getting things done. It's what points the work in the right direction."
- "The first version of an idea is usually a reaction to an emotion. The second version after you give it some space and room to breathe is the one that usually holds up a little better."
- "And that's why the hardest worker in the room is often making the most reactive decisions. It's not that they're careless, it's that they don't have the space."
Key Themes
- Why best ideas show up in the shower, the car, and at 3 a.m.
- Knowledge versus understanding
- Discernment as seeing the difference between options
- Maslow's hierarchy of needs as the floor
- Room to breathe as the start of perspective
- Play and decompression as strategy
- A second angle from another person
- The floor check
